Here’s a dangerous question to contemplate: Do people like you? If not, why? Is it your
personality? While you may not need a winning personality to succeed in life and
business, it sure does help!
If you’re someone who has a hard time connecting with others, ask yourself these four
1. Am I approachable? Do the people in your life and workplace find it easy to ask
you questions or request help? Or do they tend to shy away from you, doing
everything possible to avoid interaction? Being approachable is a very important
trait to develop if you want to increase your personal power. Just because you’re
in charge (or want to be) doesn’t mean you should be the office know-it- all or
overpower everyone else.
2. Am I genuine? No matter how hard you try and hide it, if you’re harboring a
hidden agenda or are insincere, others will notice and they’ll consider you
3. Am I friendly? There’s no need to be everyone’s friend, but at least try to be
friendly. Likable people are easy to talk to and make an effort to connect with
4. Am I interested? Notice that I didn’t say interesting here, I said interested.
There’s a difference. Being interested means you care what others have to say and
how they feel. You listen, really listen, to the concerns of others and work to
make everyone you meet feel valued.
Maybe you’re not the most well-liked person around the office right now, but you can
work on changing that. Here’s how:
Cultivate Your Desire to Change
You can’t change unless you want to. Decide what kind of personality traits you want to
adopt and then work on them.
Acknowledge your weaknesses. Until you know what areas of your personality need fine-
tuning, you’ll have no idea how to become more likable.
Make the Change
Once you have the desire to change and figure out what needs changing, the work is up to
you. No one can change your attitude except you. Action is the last and most important
step to developing mojo no one can resist.