While having lunch the other day, I listened in on an argument. Please don’t think harshly of me. I didn’t mean to listen in, but the couple was louder than they should have been if the intention was to keep their conversation completely private.
The couple was sitting in the booth behind mine, and each was very adamant that their opinion was the right one. To someone listening in, they both had great points; they were both right and they were both wrong. Of course, I was not privy to the insider information that was making the couple so animated and angry.
Although I never did figure out who won the argument, I walked away from my lunch with a new perspective on reality. As a silent, objective observer of their private tiff, I learned an important lesson: reality is what you make it. Each of these people thought the victory should have been theirs. Why? Because of the reality they built in their own minds.
Mastering Your Reality
You might be wondering if people can create their own realities to win an argument, can they do the same to win at the game of life? Absolutely! If we allow ourselves to think and believe, we can make the impossible possible. Just as if you believe in your side of the argument, you can win.
I love the story of J. K. Rowling, the author of the popular Harry Potter books. This woman was a divorced single mother on welfare with no idea how to keep food on the table for herself and her young daughter. She had few prospects, but she did have a good story, one that she fiercely believed was worth telling.
At a loss for what else to do, she decided to put her ideas to paper. What she created was a multimillion dollar empire. I’m sure no one in her life believed she could finish the book, let alone create a mini-dynasty with it. Maybe she didn’t think so either. But she did know one thing: she had a good story and if she could just convince others it was a good story, she could put food on the table and pay the rent—at least for a little while.
Rowling didn’t let the circumstances of her life stop her. Instead, she allowed her subconscious to believe it was possible to write a book and sell it. The rest, as they say, is history.
Ask yourself this: If I stopped telling myself I can’t do something, what could I accomplish? Be like Rowling; step into unknown territory and give yourself the freedom to spread your wings. You might be surprised where your flight takes you.
Creating your own reality doesn’t mean living in a fantasy world. On the contrary, it means doing whatever you have to do to make your dreams come true. Maybe you need to go back to school and earn a degree or quit your current job and enter a whole new industry. Consider what needs to be changed in your life, make the necessary preparations, and then take the leap.
Your reality can be anything you want it to be if you’re willing to take the risk and believe in yourself. Take a lesson from J. K. Rowling. Not only did she build a new reality in her books, she created a whole new reality for herself.